Some quick background: My immediate family's become obsessed with cheese over the last 10 years or so. We had our Thanksgiving gathering a couple of days ago and one of the desserts that someone brought was an apple pie so my mother immediately started bugging the person who was hosting the gathering if she had any cheese to go with it. Is the normal? Even remotely normal to put cheese with apple pie? Nobody I've asked about it has heard about it.
Anyways, the reason I ask is that put me over the edge regarding this cheese obsession. At these family gatherings, especially the ones my parents host, the main appetizer is always cheese and crackers. Quite often it's the only appetizer. My family knows I can't eat cheese without getting sick. All I can manage is a little bit of cheddar cooked to death on top of hamburgers but even then it's dicey. Despite knowing that cheese hits my allergies seriously hard, family members still say I should have some. I've been politely declining and reminding them that I can't have cheese all these years. But I'm getting fed up with them ignoring that allergy and this railroading cheese with the apple pie seriously pissed me off and I unequivocally stated no, I'm not having cheese with my slice of apple pie, I can't have it, you know I can't have it, and I'm not having it and that's the end of it. I got my slice of pie sans fromage but my mother got into a snit about it. The flat out rudeness about systematically not respecting the one food allergy I have for years has finally pissed me off and if it comes up again at the next family gathering, I'm not going to be as polite about it as I have been.