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Title: Send up a prayer for a true Weber die-hard.
Post by: mike.stavlund on August 24, 2015, 04:45:51 PM
I know I've mentioned before that my dad is struggling with a brain disorder.  He's been diagnosed with Lewy-Body dementia, which the same affliction that led Robin Williams to make his final choices... characterized by increasing confusion, hallucinations, and paranoia.  It's pretty grim, and things have gotten worse over the past month or so.  It's gotten to the point that he doesn't recognize my sister, in spite of the fact that she has visited him almost every day this summer.  He's now living full-time in an assisted living facility.

But after a week and a half of him not knowing my sister, he had a moment of clarity the other day, looking up suddenly and greeting her.  They talked for a few minutes, and she mentioned that my brother would be visiting the next day.  My dad thought about this for a minute, then said "Do you think I could have a grilled hamburger?" 

Of course the next day my sister delivered the black OTG that my dad gave her as a wedding present, and they had a great meal.  We'd like to think that that familiar kettle shape and charcoal smell was therapeutic for him, and when I'm visiting later this week we're planning to roll out the grill again.  I'm praying that sometime this week he'll recognize me for a minute, and feel the love from his granddaughters. 

In the earlier phase of his illness when we used to talk on the phone, he would struggle to carry on a conversation but would always click into a good chat about our Webers and what was cooking.  And now, I'm hoping that the iconic silhouette will bring him some moment of clarity and maybe a brief connection with me.  It's a gift he gave me, and I'm so grateful that I can give it back.
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Post by: Matt_T on August 24, 2015, 04:50:51 PM
I'm sorry to hear about your father. Watching your parents go through any illness is truly awful. Be there for him - be strong for your family - and make sure you cook a damn good meal.

My family and I will keep your Dad and your family in our prayers.

All the best -

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Post by: Saugust on August 24, 2015, 05:06:46 PM
Lord have mercy upon your father and your entire family. -Sean
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Post by: Ted B on August 24, 2015, 05:52:27 PM
My prayers with you and your family. Anyone who raised as fine a man as you is great indeed.
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Post by: Craig on August 24, 2015, 06:09:09 PM
Sorry to hear about your father @mike.stavlund ! You, your father and your family are in our prayers.
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Post by: SixZeroFour on August 24, 2015, 06:29:04 PM
Very sorry to hear that Mike - but thank you for sharing the story with us. How excellent is that, that he wants to grill up some burgers with your brother. It sounds like hes very well loved and supported. All the best to you and your fam.
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Post by: Bob BQ on August 24, 2015, 06:32:20 PM
Thank you for sharing this. Thoughts and prayers are absolutely with your father and family.
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Post by: wyd on August 24, 2015, 06:42:32 PM
Mike sorry to hear about your dad.  Saying a prayer for him.
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Post by: JDD on August 24, 2015, 07:16:26 PM
Very sorry for you and your family. Hope the kettle saves the day!
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Post by: 1911Ron on August 24, 2015, 07:23:22 PM
We went thru kind of the same thing with my Dad, he could remember something from when he was young but not anyone in the room.
Prayers for your Father and your family and never underestimate the power of the kettle!
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Post by: terrymo on August 24, 2015, 07:41:52 PM
Sending out prayers for you and your family. Praying  especially that your Dad has a clear mind during your visit.
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Post by: SmokenJoe on August 24, 2015, 08:43:46 PM
Have strength when you visit, it's difficult.  He deserves your love & attention at this point in his life.  He's given so much, now you can give back in love.  Best of all, I'm with you and your family.         Larry
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Post by: jcnaz on August 24, 2015, 08:48:24 PM
My prayers, for your father and your family.
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Post by: pbe gummi bear on August 24, 2015, 08:53:39 PM
Prayers for your dad and family, Mike. We'll be there for you through these tough times.

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Post by: 1buckie on August 24, 2015, 09:17:12 PM
That's rough Mike.....my Pops was gettin' kinda dementia daffy for a while too......still recognized most everyone, but he would lapse into telling the same stories & jokes a lot.......when I went over to cook though, he would sit out on the picnic table next to where I was working & just grin & grin & call me the "grillmaster".....he had gas or charcoal Webers for years & it DID ring a bell with him to see one cooking......sure of it.......... 8)

Hope the smell of the grill sets him to humming a bar or two !!!!
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Post by: tb80 on August 25, 2015, 01:41:29 AM
Prayers for your dad and your family


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Post by: MrHoss on August 25, 2015, 03:12:48 AM
Said a little prayer for you and yours Mike. Take care guy.
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Post by: Scott Zee on August 25, 2015, 03:39:13 AM
Mike, prayers out to you and your family. Whatever it might take for the light to come on for even just a little bit is a blessing. Keep positive thoughts and keep that Weber smoking for dad. PEACE
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Post by: Lumpy Coal on August 25, 2015, 04:04:46 AM
Thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Post by: Neil_VT00 on August 25, 2015, 06:29:43 AM
My thoughts are prayers go out to you and your family.  It's amazing how something like a grill can have such a profound impact on someone's state of mind.
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Post by: firedude5015 on August 25, 2015, 10:44:33 AM
Prayers going up!...cling to every memory you can. I miss my Dad beyond belief.
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Post by: einrej on August 25, 2015, 05:31:52 PM
My prayers are you and your family.
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Post by: WNC on August 25, 2015, 05:40:45 PM
Hey Mike, sorry to hear about your dad. Here's hoping for a couple more clear moments. Wishing you and your wonderful family well
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Post by: Andrew on August 25, 2015, 06:36:00 PM
All our best.

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Post by: Jeff on August 25, 2015, 07:42:05 PM
Prayers to you and the family Mike.  I understand what your going through.  My situation isn't that far along yet. 
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Post by: glrasmussen on August 25, 2015, 08:08:48 PM
Prayers to you and your family Mike. Having lived through this situation, keep your chin up. Don't ask questions to "why". Wasn't a choice by your father. Guaranteed, for him to remember the Weber Grill and burgers is a good.
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Post by: Troy on August 25, 2015, 08:35:49 PM
Sorry to hear about this Mike.
Amazing how the iconic weber plays into the situation though.

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Post by: Peaspurple on August 28, 2015, 03:46:47 PM
Mike,  thought and prayers with you. Glad to see a kettle gave him a moment of clarity.